如何成為智慧的安慰者（伯十三）

我真要對全能者說話；我願與神理論。你們是編造謊言的，都是無用的醫生。惟願你們全然不作聲；這就算為你們的智慧！請你們聽我的辯論，留心聽我口中的分訴。你們要為神說不義的話嗎？為他說詭詐的言語嗎？(伯 13：3-7) 

本章，約伯繼續對朋友的指責做出回應，可以感受到約伯的無奈與怒氣，認為他們在神面前說謊；他們的安慰，就如同無用的醫生，還不如不說，就如聖經所言，愚昧人若靜默不言，也可算為智慧；閉口不說，也可算為聰明(箴 17：28)。

當我們想要安慰別人時，到底該怎麼做才不會適得其反呢？從聖經中我們就可以學習到安慰別人的關鍵原則 ：

1、陪伴與同理：與喜樂的人要同樂；與哀哭的人要同哭。要彼此同心；不要志氣高大，倒要俯就卑微的人；不要自以為聰明。(羅 12：15-16)

2、分享神的安慰與盼望：願頌讚歸與我們的主耶穌基督的父神，就是發慈悲的父，賜各樣安慰的神。我們在一切患難中，他就安慰我們，叫我們能用神所賜的安慰去安慰那遭各樣患難的人。(林後 1:3-4) 

3、存溫柔的心彼此分擔重擔：弟兄們，若有人偶然被過犯所勝，你們屬靈的人就當用溫柔的心把他挽回過來；又當自己小心，恐怕也被引誘。你們各人的重擔要互相擔當，如此，就完全了基督的律法。(加 6：1-2)

4、不隨意論斷他人：所以，我們不可再彼此論斷，寧可定意誰也不給弟兄放下絆腳跌人之物。(羅 14：13) 

在這個世界上，有許多心靈憂傷、身體病痛的人，真正的安慰並不在於華麗的言辭，而在於一顆「同理、溫柔、願意陪伴」的心，我們並不能幫他們承受苦痛，但是我們可以當一個使他們願意傾訴的出口，用神安慰我們的方式，去安慰別人、試著換位思考；若你是受此患難之人，希望別人用怎樣的方式安慰自己呢？願我們都能學習，成為一個溫柔、願意安慰別人的人，讓神的愛透過我們，成為別人黑暗中的亮光。 

你們是世上的光。城造在山上是不能隱藏的。人點燈，不放在斗底下，是放在燈臺上，就照亮一家的人。你們的光也當這樣照在人前，叫他們看見你們的好行為，便將榮耀歸給你們在天上的父。(太 5：14-16) 

by張家綺

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How to Be a Wise Comforter (Job 13)

September 4, 2025

“But I would speak to the Almighty, and I desire to argue my case with God. As for you, you smear with lies; you are worthless physicians, all of you. Oh that you would keep silent, and it would be your wisdom! Hear now my argument, and listen to the pleadings of my lips. Will you speak falsely for God and speak deceitfully for him?” (Job 13:3–7, ESV)

In this chapter Job answers again the words of his friends. His tone shows helplessness and anger, for he thought that they were lying in the name of God. Their comfort was like useless physicians—better to say nothing. As the Bible says: “Even a fool who keeps silent is considered wise; when he closes his lips, he is deemed intelligent.” (Proverbs 17:28, ESV)

When we wish to comfort others, how should we act so that our words do not hurt instead? From the Bible we learn key principles of true comfort:

1. Companionship and empathy :

“Rejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep. Live in harmony with one another. Do not be haughty, but associate with the lowly. Never be wise in your own sight.” (Romans 12:15–16, ESV)

2. To share God’s comfort and hope:

“Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction, so that we may be able to comfort those who are in any affliction, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God.” (2 Corinthians 1:3–4, ESV)

3. To bear one another’s burdens with gentleness:

“Brothers, if anyone is caught in any transgression, you who are spiritual should restore him in a spirit of gentleness. Keep watch on yourself, lest you too be tempted. Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.” (Galatians 6:1–2, ESV)

4. To avoid careless judgment others:

“Therefore let us not pass judgment on one another any longer, but rather decide never to put a stumbling block or hindrance in the way of a brother.” (Romans 14:13, ESV)

In this world many suffer in heart or in body. True comfort is not in fine words, but in a heart that is gentle, willing to listen, and ready to be with the other. We cannot take away their pain, but we can be the ear that receives their cry. With the comfort that God has given us, let us comfort others, putting ourselves in their place. If we were the ones in trouble, what kind of comfort would we wish to receive? May we learn to be gentle, to comfort others, and let the love of God shine through us, to be light in another’s darkness.

“You are the light of the world. A city set on a hill cannot be hidden. Nor do people light a lamp and put it under a basket, but on a stand, and it gives light to all in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven.” (Matthew 5:14–16, ESV)

By Chang Chia-Chi