我屬我良人，我的良人也屬我（歌六）中英bilingual

我屬我的良人，我的良人也屬我；我的佳偶啊，你美麗如得撒，秀美如耶路撒冷，威武如展開旌旗的軍隊。(歌 6：3-4) 

在面對婚姻中的迷惘、失落，以及重新尋回的過程中(雅歌5章)，佳偶逐漸認清了良人的方向。當人問她：「你的良人往何處去了？」她已能清楚地回答，知道良人的所在，並且回應了：「我屬我的良人，我的良人也屬我。」 這是一種在婚姻認知上的深化與成長 - 從「我擁有良人」，轉變為「良人擁有我」；從被動地接受良人的愛，轉為主動地去愛良人。 

你們作妻子的，當順服自己的丈夫，如同順服主。因為丈夫是妻子的頭，如同基督是教會的頭；他又是教會全體的救主。教會怎樣順服基督，妻子也要怎樣凡事順服丈夫。你們作丈夫的，要愛你們的妻子，正如基督愛教會，為教會捨己。要用水藉著道把教會洗淨，成為聖潔，可以獻給自己，作個榮耀的教會，毫無玷污、皺紋等類的病，乃是聖潔沒有瑕疵的。(弗 5：22-27) 

保羅用夫妻的關係來比喻教會與神的關係，指出如何達到聖潔並合一的境界。當中，「順服」是一項重要的功課。然而，順服並不是被動的逆來順受，而是一連串學習與調整的過程。我們藉著聖經真理在生活中的實踐，逐漸體會神在我們生命中的主權與帶領。在現今社會觀念中，這段經文常被誤解為貶低女性、要求妻子對丈夫的屈從，但其實恰恰相反。這裡所呈現的，是妻子在深刻體認到丈夫願意為自己捨命的愛之後，所流露出甘心樂意的順服 - 這是一種對愛的回應。  

同樣地，對教會而言，當我們越認識基督為教會捨己的愛，就越能真實地活出對神的順服。在這樣的過程中，生命被更新，逐漸成為主所喜悅、聖潔榮耀的教會。 正如啟示錄21章2節所說：「我又看見聖城新耶路撒冷由神那裏從天而降，預備好了，就如新婦妝飾整齊，等候丈夫。」 這裏提醒我們，最終教會要以新婦的身分，被預備好來迎見基督。那不只是將來的盼望，也是今日我們信仰中持續成形的過程 - 在主的愛中學習順服，彼此聯屬，直到完全與主聯合為一體。

我們要歡喜快樂，將榮耀歸給他。因為，羔羊婚娶的時候到了；新婦也自己預備好了，就蒙恩得穿光明潔白的細麻衣。（這細麻衣就是聖徒所行的義。）天使吩咐我說：你要寫上：凡被請赴羔羊之婚筵的有福了！(啟 19：7-9) 

By陳婉萍

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I am my beloved’s and my beloved is mine (Solomon 6) 

I am my beloved’s and my beloved is mine; The Groom“You are as beautiful as Tirzah, my darling, As lovely as Jerusalem, As awesome as an army with banners.( Song of Solomon 6:3-4 NASB )

In facing the uncertainties, disappointments, and the process of retrieving love in marriage (Song of Solomon, Chapter 5), the bride gradually understood the direction of the beloved. When people ask her, where is your beloved? She is able to respond clearly, knowing where her beloved is, and responded: "I am my beloved’s and my beloved is mine.” This represents depth and growth in marriage - from “I have my beloved”, into “my beloved has me”; from passively accepting the beloved’s love, to actively loving the beloved. 

Wives, subject yourselves to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body. But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her, so that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she would be holy and blameless. (Ephesians 5:22-27)

Paul used the relationship of the husband and wife to express the relationship between church and God, pointing out how to achieve holiness and the state of togetherness. Among this expression, "obedience" is an important homework. However, obedience does not come from being passive and submissive, but rather a series of processes in learning and adjusting. We are able to experience God’s sovereignty and guidance in our lives by practicing the truth in the Bible in life. In today’s ideologies of society, this phrase in the Bible is often misinterpreted as looking down upon women, requesting wives to surrender to their husbands, when in fact it’s the opposite. Presented here, the wife deeply acknowledges her husband’s willingness to lay down his life for her out of love and in response, she willingly and joyfully offers her submission - this is a response to love. 

In the same way, for church, the more we understand Christ’s self-sacrificing love for the church, the more we will be able to live faithfully in obedience to God. In this process, our lives are renewed, and gradually become pleasing to the Lord, the holy and glorious church. Just like how Revelations 21:2 mentioned: "And I saw the holy city, new Jerusalem, coming down out of heaven from God, prepared as a bride adorned for her husband". This reminds us, the church ultimately needs to remain its status of a bride, and prepare well to meet Christ. Not only is that hope for the future, this is also the ongoing process of our faith taking shape today - learning obedience in the Lord’s love, being bound to one another, until we are perfect and united with the Lord as one. 

“Let’s rejoice and be glad and give the glory to Him, because the marriage of the Lamb has come and His bride has prepared herself. It was given to her to clothe herself in fine linen, bright and clean; for the fine linen is the righteous acts of the saints.

Then he said to me, Write: “Blessed are those who are invited to the marriage supper of the Lamb.”’ And he said to me, ‘These are true words of God.’” (Revelations 19:7-9)

By Wan- Ping Chen